Trusting The Lord For A Husband
– by Bernadette Chiponda
“Then the Lord God said ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” – Genesis 2:18
As a young Christian girl, I was taught to trust and ask God for a partner at an early age. I recall sincerely praying for a spouse in my early twenties, yet nothing prepared me for the long-wait I had to endure before getting married. I discovered during the time I was single that it wasn’t just a matter of “waiting upon the Lord”, but it was an era characterised by heartbreaks and peer / social pressures, as my sisters, friends, and most colleagues of my age group were getting married. It became frustrating attending weddings and bridal / baby showers, when clearly nothing was happening to me. My initial reaction was to take matters into my own hands by turning to the advice of secular magazines, the internet, books, and singles’ seminars. I compromised my ideals and became more accommodating, but still, that didn’t bring the marriage.
I threw myself fully at my career for a season, but after a while I panicked because my biological clock was ticking. I started asking questions, “Where is the Lord, why He has not answered my prayer, or was I meant to be alone for the rest of my life?” When I decided to seek the Lord’s will for my relationships, it was my turning point. I realised that I had started to pray for a spouse, but did not persist in prayer. I had often heard that ‘in prayer there will be setbacks, but never retreat.’ Yet I stopped praying every time there was a setback; I had allowed discouragement, fear, and depression to take over. I readily tried the advice of friends, but never really asked the Holy Spirit to guide me concerning my individual situation – instead I rushed into relationships. Despite the odds, I got married at the age of 38 years, and I learnt many priceless lessons that I share in my new book to be released this winter, Sick & Tired of being single.
JOY! Magazine (June 2018)