Do Not Compare
“For we dare not class ourselves or compare ourselves with those who commend themselves. But they, measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.” – 2 Corinthians 10:12
People who compare are miserable. We are constantly making comparisons. It is normal for most of us; we don’t think there is anything wrong with it. It is a subconscious mental process that grows in us from childhood into adulthood. But making comparisons is a thinking habit that makes you miserable. Leah was miserable while she compared herself to Rachel, and Rachel was miserable while she compared herself to Leah. In both their minds it was a mental habit that broke down their relationships and left them unhappy. When we compare ourselves to others we either become smug and proud, or threatened, inferior, and sad. The end result is that you set up a standard in your mind and then work towards meeting that standard. E.g. I have to be as thin; or as popular; or as successful as that person.
In the process, you move from being the real you (with your own strengths and weaknesses) to being a self-imposed you that matches your comparison. It becomes a role that you play in front of people, where you try to adapt and alter yourself to fit in with a picture. Our goal is to measure up to God’s plan for us, what He wants for us and how He has designed us. He does not want us to live to a standard we have developed, but rather He wants us to live according to His standards. Comparing is a bad mental habit. Maturing as a believer includes consciously working at managing your thoughts and behaviour to change that. I had the problematic habit of making comparisons. I had to stop and make peace with who I was and work with the Lord at becoming what He wanted me to be. I had to learn to be content with myself first. “Godliness with contentment, is great gain.” – 1 Tim 6:6.
JOY! Magazine (September 2017)