– by Marietjie Ruth Spangenberg

Vision is to trust God’s promises for our lives as spoken through the prophet Jeremiah, “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” – Jeremiah 29:11.

I tell couples all the time that they have to abide in God’s vision, His purpose for their marriage. Vision is also letting God reveal to you what that purpose is? 

Let’s look at five Christian virtues, showing why vision is so important for your marriage:

1 Clarity is the first virtue – it’s understanding why God has put you and your partner together. It’s impossible to know if you’re successful if you don’t know what it is you’re trying to accomplish for the future. Confusion is the opposite of clarity, and God never creates anything to operate in confusion. God wants us to operate in the light. He will also speak to us and give us clarity if we let Him.

2 The second virtue is passion. If you don’t know the vision for your life and marriage, it is hard to get excited about it. Once you identify a vision, both of you will pursue it with enormous energy. When God gives us a desire, He equips us to pursue it. Love and commitment deepen as two people work toward common goals in a marriage.

3 Purity is the third virtue. Without vision people cast off restraint, they fall into sin. They become vulnerable to negative guidance, living your life attempting not to fail or struggling not to do bad things, with a vision you will live doing good things. That is a huge psychological difference. 

4 The fourth virtue of vision is unity. Couples fight because they don’t see eye-to-eye. They have competing visions, that is what the word division means. Two people cannot walk together unless they are in agreement. First and foremost, you and your spouse should get together and discuss your individual visions and goals for your marriage. Write them down and then look for similarities. It helps to break them down into categories such as spiritual, financial, lifestyle, travel, relationship, and parenting goals. It is impossible to succeed in marriage when a husband and wife are divided.

5 Declaring Victory over your marriage is the last virtue. Pray the following prayer over your marriage. “Here I am Lord. Use me to encourage and love my partner. Remove my fears, insecurities, guilt, and the lies that I have fallen for. Holy Spirit, I give you access into the deepest parts of my heart and ask that you refine me and guide me. Also teach me to always have a Godly vision for my marriage. Fill all of me with All of You. I give you my life, my marriage and my family.

In Jesus’ Name, Amen.”

Marietjie Ruth Spangenberg is the founder of Ruth Foundation and Ruth Women Annual Conference. Ministry Projects and Counsellor at Radio Tygerberg 104FM. Email: marietjie@104fm.co.za


JOY! Magazine (Feb/March 2017)

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