– A Millennial Parent, Jeremiah Johnson
After pastoring and counseling young families over the last 10 years on a full time basis, I’m absolutely convinced that one of the greatest idols in this generation of millennial parents is our children. And oh how easy and subtle it is to turn gifts (children) into gods.
We worship them to the point where we hardly discipline them, hardly say ‘no’, rarely tell them what they are going to do, and when they are going to do it.
We cater to their every need and call. They control and consume our time, money, energy, and schedules because we have made them our idols. Millennial parents have become so infatuated with their kids that they cannot seem to find any fault or wrong in them. Everyone else’s kids are the problem. Spanking is old fashion. Bed times are ridiculous. Consistent church attendance? No way! Sunday is our “family” fun day. Milleninal moms? Many of them are now more in love with their kids than their husband.
Our bedrooms have become our children’s bedrooms. They sleep in our beds because we can’t stand to let them cry it out. They manipulate us with their tantrums and demands and we cave in all the time. Millennial parents who consistently tell their kids “no” and issue consequences for bad behavior are ruining all the fun.
Many baby boomers are flat out embarrassed at the parenting skills of their millennial children and they should be. We are raising our kids in “me centered” homes and seriously hindering their ability to receive the Gospel one day, which by the way has nothing to do with “me”.
Pray with me in agreement today for millennial parents that we will learn to:
Spank our kids, put them in timeout, and issue whatever consequences are necessary for bad behavior. Pray we will stop saying our kid is too strong willed for discipline. (Because that’s why prisons were invented…. for people who have too strong of a will). Pray that when our kids throw a tantrum, we won’t do the walk away trick, distract them trick, or hand them a cell phone/gaming device trick. Pray that we will stop asking our kids what they want to do and start telling our kids what they are going to do. Pray we will sacrifice so that our kids actually encounter Jesus, not spend every weekend on a ball field or dance studio. Pray that when our kids grow up wondering why the world doesn’t revolve around them, we won’t blame anyone but ourselves.
May a generation of millennials children grow up in “parent centered” homes where they are taught it’s not about them. A home where they understand authority, discipline, and respect. These homes will give them the greatest opportunity and preparation to receive the real Gospel of Jesus Christ. A Gospel of self-denial and sacrifice.
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The dangers of “super parenting”
– by Bob and Debby Gass
“The father of godly children has cause for joy. What a pleasure to have children who are wise. So give your father and mother joy! May she who gave you birth be happy.” – Proverbs 23:24-25 NLT
Your goal as a parent should not be to raise perfect children, but to impart to them the wisdom needed for successful living. This raises two challenges: parental neglect and parental obsession. The second one is prevalent among parents who become obsessed with their children, leaving them no time for recreation, romance, or rest.
These folks probably wouldn’t even consider Mother Teresa to be qualified as their babysitter! The motives of obsessive parents may be good, but their preoccupation can lead to three serious problems:
(1) Making children the centerpiece of life, which is not in their best interests. If you make children the center of the universe, they are in for a rude awakening when they get out into the real world.
(2) Emotional and physical fatigue produces what is known as “parental burnout.” Just as a battery cannot continually be drained, you need time to recharge physically, emotionally, and spiritually. When you don’t get it, you run on your nerves and everybody around you feels the negative effects.
(3) “Super parenting” can be destructive to a marriage, especially when the mother is the one so inclined. A father may come to resent the children for taking his wife away from him, or she may think her husband is selfish because he doesn’t match her commitment to the kids. Either way, a wedge is driven between them that could eventually destroy the family.
The Bible says, “Let your moderation be known unto all men” (Philippians 4:5). Moderation, or balance, is the key to a healthy and happy family life.
Soul food: 1 Cor 9:24-27; Num 6:1-8; Prov 25:28
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